As kids head back to school in the new year, the initial excitement of a fresh slate can often become entangled with feelings of anxiety—for both children and parents. For many children, the transition back to school can become daunting, filled with new expectations, social dynamics, and academic pressures. It’s important to remember that as parents and caregivers, we play a crucial role in helping them navigate this period of change. Having said this, there are a few things that you can do to help assist your child in having a successful—and happy—second half of the school year.
Understanding Expectations
One of the biggest sources of anxiety for children returning to school is the pressure of expectations—both academic and social. After having a break for the holidays, it’s essential to have open conversations with your child about what they anticipate from the remaining school year. Discuss their goals, whether it's making new friends, excelling in a subject, or participating in extracurricular activities.
By normalizing these conversations, you allow them to express their feelings and fears. Reassure them that it’s okay to feel nervous and that everyone experiences some level of anxiety during transitions. Setting realistic expectations together can help alleviate pressure and provide them with a clearer understanding of what lies ahead.
Preparing for Emotions—Big or Small!
Returning to a routine—like school—can elicit emotions ranging from excitement and anticipation to fear and sadness. That said, preparing our children for this emotional rollercoaster is crucial. Encourage them to articulate their feelings, no matter how big or small. This might mean discussing what they’re looking forward to or what worries them about the new year.
Teach them coping strategies, such as deep breathing, journaling, or talking to someone they trust. Create a safe space for them to express their emotions without judgment. And always remind them that it’s perfectly normal to experience a mix of feelings during this transition, and they don’t have to navigate it alone.
Express Your Confidence in Them
As parents, our words can and do carry immense weight. By expressing your confidence in your child, you can significantly boost their self-esteem and resilience. Share specific examples of times when they’ve faced challenges and come out stronger. Highlight their strengths and talents, reinforcing the idea that they are equipped to handle whatever comes their way.
Celebrate small victories along the journey, whether it’s making a new friend, completing an assignment, or simply getting through the first day. When children feel supported and believed in, they are more likely to approach challenges with a positive mindset.
Establishing a Relationship with Their Teachers
Lastly, a positive relationship with teachers can greatly reduce a child’s anxiety about school. Encourage your child to maintain a relationship with their teachers and ask questions about the remainder of the school year. If possible, attend school events or open houses together to foster this connection.
You can also contact teachers to share any specific concerns your child may have. This proactive approach not only helps the teachers understand your child better but also demonstrates to your child that they have a support system in place. A collaborative relationship can help your child feel more secure and understood in the classroom.
As we engage in the new year, it’s essential to recognize the potential stressors our children may face. By talking about expectations, preparing for emotions, expressing confidence and establishing strong relationships with teachers, we can help our children navigate this transition with greater ease. Let’s embrace this time as an opportunity for growth and connection, ensuring that our children feel supported and ready to thrive in the remaining year ahead.
Here's to a successful and fulfilling new year!
About the Author
Beth Snow MacMullan, M.S. Ed., is the Executive Director and Owner of Brain Balance of Greater Baltimore. She is the founder of Breathe Learn Connect Services, LLC., and has a background as an executive functioning coach, mindfulness and yoga teacher, and professor.
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